Her brother is getting ready to leave on a mission, to a Spanish Speaking South American country, and in their last several conversations, he has shared his intent to not return to the US after his mission is done. Realizing how much preparation he has done, since receiving his mission call, has made it a very real possibility that this may be the last time she sees her brother, until she has a chance to travel outside the United States.
As with other posts about Sarah's life, it is with my own words, as I express the concepts that she discuss, and so there are parts of this that come from each of our lives. I hope it is clear, that neither of us speak for each other, or for the LDS church. We continue as friends, and I try to mentor her when she needs it. I am grateful for our ongoing friendship.)
Sarah's Struggles September 2013
Sarah sent me this video, and her frustration with her father's view of the world. This makes me want to cheer for the poet, cry for his sister's students, and bitchslap the idiots who make these insane laws.
The number of people who have posted this video on their walls, with insults and nasty sentiments about this poet's sister and her students, who are LDS, is very disheartening.
"Sarah" called me in tears after hearing from her (18 year-old) younger brother, who shared this experience at Youth Conference. There were several Stake Leaders who told all the YM/YW, that all LDS youth have a responsibility to only speak English with any "foreigners" in their stake.
Another of Sarah's younger brothers, was then asked to publicly name, (and shame) a member of the Teacher's Quorum. The young man had been translating an earlier session for a new member of the Teacher's Quorum, whose family had moved to the US, so his father could attend a graduate studies program at BYU.
Sarah's father was the one who caught the young man, using the Spanish he had learned from his grandmother, and in school. Her father felt it necessary to use his position of authority to shame the YM who translated, for polluting the "Spirit of the Conference" in such a "disgraceful manner," and make it clear that the South American family, were not real members of Zion, just people who were there to "mooch off the church welfare system," for the 4-6 years while the father of the family would be in graduate school.
Her father posted this video, with the following comment:
"True Patriots don't make excuses for kids with poop for brains, they eliminate those who are ignorant. Maybe it's time to stop wasting our time on foreign missions, and worry about taking care of our own, and only our own."
In my post about this on Facebook, I asked:
*Please, (those of you in the Mormon corridor) tell me that this is a minority view, unacceptable in even the most *fundamental,* Mormon corridor, home schooled families.* Please?
I know there has to be a reason that laws like this even exist, and I know it isn't because studies have shown that English only curriculum works.
The church teaches English by first teaching how to read the Book of Mormon in the native language, and then to read it in English. When I was called as the assistant teacher in an LDS literacy class, we were told that being able to read and write in their native language, was the best indicator of success in English literacy. For a child whose mother is illiterate in her native language, her children are 5 times more likely to be illiterate, according to the information shared at the training.
As an international church that prides ourselves on having missionaries embedded, and serving, all over the world and in a huge variety of other cultures, how do we end up with Mormon conservatives supporting an education program that *we,* as a church don't use, because it doesn't work?
As we have talked during the last few months, Sarah has shared her pain that her brother, who leaves on a mission soon, is not planning on coming back after his 2 year mission is complete. I certainly understand why Sarah supports her 18 year-old brother, (who leaves before Christmas for his South American mission) and his desire to stay in that country, (and not return to the US) after he is released as a missionary.
He is hoping to find a way to not come home after his mission, and instead find a job and a wife, and live there for the rest of his life. It may be his only way to both make sure his father won't be interested in visiting, and to get away from the of his life up until now. When Sarah first asked me to look into the difficulty of becoming a permanent citizen/being legally able to work, I had some reservations. After several emails with her brother, his desire to have things in place, so he can stay if he still wants to, (after his mission) doesn't seem so crazy.
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Goals To Be Happy
Sarah's question to me this evening, to pose to my readers is this: If you might not see your brother for years, maybe decades, what would you do? What would you say? I want to be loving and supportive, and I wish I could tell him that he would be better to come back, but I don't know how I could honestly do that.
So readers, do you have any thoughts or ideas to share with Sarah?